Wendy Robinson - My Story
My Journey started with my marriage when I was when I was 23.
When I look back I now consider it a success… even if I felt like a failure at the time. Can you relate to this? I was riding the relationship roller coaster.
So many highs, feeling in love and passion, all the excitement and then plummeting down into a world of hurt, and pain.
When you’re on the roller coaster, you can’t help but wonder…
Is this all there is?
When your partner or spouse makes you feels like you’re 15 years old, living with the “critical parent”.
This is the relationship roller coaster I was riding. The two of us would somehow dig ourselves out of the hole, come up for air, and maybe experience some joy and some fun again.
But then the pattern repeated itself and I was left to wonder once again…
Where did the love go?
The disappointing ride kept going, up and down, again and again, over and over, month after month, year after year on the relationship roller coaster.
I couldn’t get off this ride for the last 5 years of my 26-year marriage. Not until the day something finally made me yell, “Stop! I want to get off of this relationship roller coaster… RIGHT NOW.
You know what? Our partner relationship impacts every part of our lives.
When there is stress in your life that can burn away what was once a deep and meaningful connection between you and your partner, and you’re not feeling “in sync,” everything suffers…. Everything.
Your health, your sleep, you don’t eat properly, there could be migraines, physical pain and depression.
The cycle feeds on itself. I know it because I’ve been there. I stood by helplessly and watched my energy drain away. I thought anti-depression pills would help, but of course, they didn’t.
As my energy drained away and my physical health suffered, so did my financial health. No wonder… you are distracted, and the distractions have a way of preventing you from doing your best, from being at that top of your game.
You keep riding the relationship roller coaster and the consequences keep piling up.
I struggled – really struggled – after I left my husband. I wished I had a mentor or a coach to help me through, someone to hear me, just someone to guide me , but I had nothing. There was nobody so I pushed forward as best I could on my own.
I read book after book after book on that long road to a life after divorce. For me, reading books just wasn’t enough. They didn’t get feedback, they weren’t supportive, they weren’t loving, and they weren’t giving me strategies.
There was nothing wrong with the books. It’s just that nothing happened. I stayed trapped in a lost land of depression pills. I felt resentful. I felt like a victim until I realized..
I had to do the inner work.
That’s a tough, tough combination.
I gained weight. I became more and more angry, crying myself to sleep in my lonely apartment.
My friends tried to help, but I pulled back from them, and I had a hard time concentrating on things at work.
It was impossible to find the joy, even a faint glimmer of joy, in being me.
I don’t know if any of you can relate, but it is a very lonely and depressing place
So here I was divorced and for the longest time I tried to be “normal”, and to appear on the outside that I was OK. I tried dating it just didn’t feel right and then one day I noticed an “Opportunity” on a website and found a “Life Coach” to help me “get back out and date again.”
She helped me through doing the inner work. How could I date again and like somebody else if I didn’t like myself? She helped me learn who I was at this stage of my life. She was the person I needed who listened to me, who supported me, held me accountable and gave me some much needed direction.
I was too close to it all. I couldn’t see what had happened to me, and where it put me, on my own.
I was encouraged and inspired to be “my authentic self.” This concept helped me change my outlook, not just on dating, but how I show up every day. I realized forgiveness was the name of the game for me. I had been carrying around a lot of resentment for years.
So first, I had to forgive myself and then my ex husband. That was crystal clear, and thank goodness I had someone to help me through that process. On my own, if I could ever had done it, this forgiveness could have taken years and years.
I knew it was time to jump off the victim train … I took on that role without really knowing it, and that victim train goes nowhere.
I had someone to help me, to move forward, to get past being a victim, and inspire me to help others.
What all this helped me see is that love is a choice.
We all have patterns, what we call limiting beliefs, that we have trusted in since we were young. These beliefs have worked, they have kept us safe, and they don’t go away at once.
My goal is to help you do what I’ve been able to do… step outside the patterns we have learned, and have been ingrained in us.
Limiting beliefs such as…
If I don’t do it, then it won’t get done right or at all.
If we don’t change the patterns how do we create sustainable results?
These limiting beliefs force us to play small, to be as safe as possible.
Do you know what safety can easily become? Safety is procrastination. Safety is another word for fear.
We don’t speak up, or speak our truth, and NOW is the time to do it.
It’s time to contribute, to refuse to allow the world to pass you by.
My contribution… I earned my coaching credentials, and now help clients in my 3-Step Relationship Enhancement System based on Clarity, Communication and Connection.
My clients learn that because love is a daily choice, relationships don’t have to be hard. Plain and simple, we all need to choose love daily.
When I am conscious of this, my decisions are made more easily because they come from an honest, authentic and peaceful place.
I can honestly I am at peace today, and I can honestly say that I don’t’ have any resentment towards myself or my ex-husband.
This transformation has lead to a new me, and a new job with a $15000 raise..
I’ve been inspired to help others through relationships that have stopped working, or have sadly grown stagnant.
I want to dispel the myth that “Relationships have to be HARD”.
And this has helped me create The Relationship Enhancement System…. I designed this unique SYSTEM just for YOU and couples to help everyone Do Love Right!
This belief and this awareness have also helped me created the “Goddess Way” program, which assists you as you move through your transition. It gives you the ability to maintain a strong sense of who you are, encourages your inner goddess to come out and shine like it should.
If you are ready to get off the relationship roller coaster…
If you are ready to create a transformation that’s based on your own beliefs and values, a transformation that’s actually going to last…
If you’re ready to do the inner work it takes to see a way forward, so you can identify your true feelings, express them, and take action on them…
I am not the right coach for everyone. You and I can figure this out together.
But don’t let safety hold you back any more. Let’s find out if we can work together.
Start To Create Change In Your Life Right Now
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As a dedicated personal growth advocate, Wendy brings an abundance of training and experience that is a huge benefit to her Breakthrough and coaching clients. She has pursued studies that integrate the mind/body/spiritual connection. Her background as a Certified Neurolinquistic Master Practitioner, Certified Master Practitioner in Hypnotherapy and Mental Emotional Release (MER) TM from The Empowerment Partnership (NLP.com) has created a powerful fusion of the core energy coach training with The Institute for Professional Excellance in Coaching (iPEC’s) Coach Training and Mastery programs.
Certified Professional Coach (CPC) – Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching according to the guidelines and requirements of International Coach Federation (ICF). Wendy has completed over 350 course and training hours to obtain her CPC designation.
COR.E Wellbeing Dynamics Specialist – Mastery Program – Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching. and survivorship coach who helps cancer survivors and their families create greater wellbeing while navigating the challenges of cancer. With over 18 years of experience working in private cancer facilities with patients, insurance, and pharmaceutical companies, Wendy is well versed in utilizing a wide range of resources to alleviate the stress for patients and their families caused by the financial burden.
Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner (ELI-MP) – Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching. The Energy Leadership Index is an assessment tool backed by a methodology for using the results to create awareness of current attitudes and beliefs, then assist clients in breaking old patterns and creating effective new ways to act, lead and live powerfully. Certified Neuro-linguistic
Master Practitioner, Certified Master Practitioner in Hypnotherapy and Mental Emotional Release MER® from Association of Integrative Psychology. NLP is a model of communication, how we communicate to self and others, and how that communication creates and affects our behavior. As a study, it is a synthesis of cognitive and behavioral philosophies which focus on the information coming in through the neurology (cognitive) and the programs we run inside our heads to produce the behaviors (behavioral) we do. The program is an alternative to traditional counseling and licensed therapy and results in breaking through the deep emotional trauma, wounds and shame that allows clients to more peace, begin healing and release that of shame and fear to bring about successful and sustainable changes in their lives.
Reiki Master – Connect Within, Los Angeles. Reiki is a healing technique based on the principle that the therapist can channel energy into the patient by means of touch, to activate the natural healing processes of the patient’s body and restore physical and emotional well-being. It is a Japanese technique for stress reduction and relaxation that also promotes healing. It is administered by “laying on hands” and is based on the idea that an unseen “life force energy” flows through us and is what causes us to be alive. If one’s “life force energy” is low, then we are more likely to get sick or feel stress, and if it is high, we are more capable of being happy and healthy.
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